no coincidences

in all my years of reading and researching, including the course i'm taking now, lies the concept of coincidences which states that there are no coincidences in life...people and places and events that we encounter every day and every minute of our lives are all in order...that person that you walked by in the grocery store is that person you were MEANT to walk by that day, that minute, for some higher order...in other words, there are bigger force at work...we're not supposed to find out what this order is until we've passed (that's how its supposed to be)...

we've heard accounts from those who have crossed over that everything they 'saw' was all of a sudden made so clear-every 'bad' or 'unfair' thing that ever happened to them during their life on earth contributed to a larger picture of perfection and order...its all a chain of events that together create an utterly perfect order...

...concepts like these puzzle me because this would imply the future is already set, right? yet, we know there's free will to some extent, we have so many different choices...that being said, does that mean that every move we make instead of another would also contribute perfectly to this large puzzle? and if so, how can two different actions have exactly the same purpose?

*sigh*...so many unanswered questions...